Your Leadership Moment

How to know when it’s your time to lead.

By Eric R. Martin, Managing Director, Adaptive Change Advisors

Let’s suspend any lofty notions of leadership as a visionary, strong, charismatic figure who inspires the masses. The truth is that’s the stuff of both dictators and great change-makers alike. It has nothing to do with leadership.

For over fifteen years, I’ve had the pleasure of working closely with the people who developed the Adaptive Leadership framework at Harvard. I’ve also had the honor of helping bring it to worldwide scale and practice — from Harvard to the “real world” as I often quip. Through much trial and experimentation to translate this sophisticated set of ideas into daily practice, I’ve learned that it’s most helpful to view leadership as a moment, rather than as a trait, a behavior, and certainly not as a person.

Leadership moments are ones that make your heart leap with hopeful anticipation or fear of taking the next step. Take a minute to reflect on the last time you faced such a moment. The racist uncle you or a family member decided to engage at Thanksgiving dinner — that was a leadership moment. The risk a friend took to confront you about your polarizing political rants on Facebook, rather than becoming complicit in it — that was a leadership moment. So too was the time your boss brought together yours and a competing team to talk through your respective siloed behavior. And the time your nonprofit employee challenged management to re-prioritize its mission over its funders’ interests. As difficult as they are, moments like these feel like real growth or movement in our work, in our family, team or community, and in our very selves. That’s what makes exercising leadership worth the risk involved. What makes a leadership moment is the nature of the problem at hand, and how we decide to tackle it — not traits like charisma and vision, though these can be useful tools in the moment.

Until about twenty years ago, the average executive faced less than two leadership moments per day. Today, the average person — not just executive — faces 5+ leadership moments every day. This is due to many factors including, paradoxically, a flatter and more connected world due to the democratizing power of technology combined with the rise of polarization, authoritarianism and people’s willingness to take on inequity. The Arab Uprising and the #MeToo movement, for example, were full of many such individual leadership moments. Often the first sign you’re facing a leadership moment is a growing pit in your stomach. Your heart starts to race, or your anger rises — what’s known in neuroscience as an amygdala hijack or fight or flight response. It happens at work, at home, even on social media. Leadership moments are also recognizable by the deeply felt experience of growth and movement they create.

Our work to ‘democratize leadership’ and help people succeed every time they face a leadership moment is driven by four core beliefs:

  1. You have five leadership moments. Everyday. The big change we want to create happens through small leadership moments, not just through big bold action
  2. Adaptive change is normal. Proactively adapting in the face of changing circumstances, while remaining true to your core values and beliefs, is one of the most challenging, yet most rewarding, aspects of leading consequential change.
  3. Democratized leadership is for, of, and by the people. Leadership is no longer just the realm of the elite. Leadership development and leadership resources belong in the hands of all people.
  4. You matter most. It’s easy to lose sight of the fact that there is no such thing as a “system.” The system is just us. It is created by people, run by people and enforced by people — until it’s not. It doesn’t exist outside of the power we give it.

Would you recognize a leadership moment when it crosses your desk? Here are ten “flags” to help you see these opportunities when they arise. How to actually engage in a leadership moment will be the subject of the next article.

Eric Martin is the Managing Director of Adaptive Change Advisors (ACA), the preeminent organization for mission-driven Adaptive Leadership development.

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